Each new year we make pledges to ourselves to “start over” or “do it right” and we have good intentions (with an often over-exuberant plan) to change our lives. Some of us even succeed at this yearly game, but often we fail. We fail gloriously and publicly, having told all of our relatives how we are going to change for the better, or we fail alone and quietly, knowing that we never really gave ourselves a chance in the first place.
What is it that we are trying to change? If I lose weight, does that make me more deserving of happiness? If I achieve my professional goals, does that make my spouse respect me? Since you have probably failed in your annual life revamp once or twice, would you like to really know what’s holding you back? It’s your thoughts, your beliefs. They keep you stuck, they create obstacles, they chip away at your self-worth. Sorry, but the problem always lies within.